Dear future husband...

I want to adopt right away...ok??

I am blessed to know I want to adopt for years before I am married. So what do I do about my need for a African baby? In my head it goes like this... Right after engagement, I tell Husband, "If you marry me, we're going to adopt from Ethiopia, okay? Whether we get pregnant or not." He shrugs and says, "Sure. That's cool." Which will confirm for me that he is, indeed, my knight in shining armor.

But I am a weirdo. The normal woman probably doesn't think of adopting an orphan until she is already married and has experienced motherhood. Then her heart cries out for children who don't have a mother to love them in the same overwhelming way that she loves her babies. She imagines her own child, alone in an orphanage, and that thought keeps her awake night after night. She knows she can't go get them all, but maybe she could have just one.

But not me. I am selfish. I want my baby now. I want a boy, and I want to name him Silas. I can already see him in my mind...his big brown eyes, and large Ethiopian forehead, and dark curly, afro hair that I will let grow into a huge mass of cuteness.

But I need my man to agree with me. because thats how it works. Although I often hear of women telling me that they would adopt...if their husbands were ok with it.

Maybe if I were a man, I would be able to reach men about adopting. Not just a man, but what if I were a football coach!! THEN I would really know how to get inside their big ole man heads! I could make a video and put it on YouTube about what a blessing adoption is, saying that I understand their fears about money and all that guy stuff. I could even tell them that they could email me or hey, call me if they had any more questions.

If only I were a man...like Scott Oatsvall...then I might could reach them...

I might even throw in a beautiful little Chinese girl with a Tennessee accent, as a visual aid, to remind them exactly what it's all about.